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Make It Happen: Dealing With Self Doubt

Personal DevelopmentAnneke McConnell

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Ok, so with that announcement made, I can fully address today's topic - dealing with and overcoming self doubt.  This past week, not gonna lie, was a bit rough. I found myself getting into the comparison trap and fighting a ton of negative thoughts about myself, my skills, my experience, my passion.  I was beginning to completely doubt myself! Before I knew it, I was heading to a bad place pretty quickly. Don't you hate it when that happens!

I suppose I'm old enough now to know that these feelings are normal  and that they come and go, but as I teach people in the Make It Happen Challenge, emotions and decision making go hand in hand.  Emotions are valuable in the decision making process, but they shouldn't boss us around.

So what do you do when you are dealing with self-doubt? When you start to feel like, "What's the point? They're so much better than me. I'm not good enough. What was I thinking.  I should just quit."

All very real and valid feelings.   Let's talk through it.

 

1. Consider the Timing.

These feelings are more likely to surface when we embark on something new.  A new schedule, job, project, class, relationship, work within an organization, you name it.  Maybe you have a solid skill, but you're working with new people in a company.  Maybe you are finally attempting to learn "___________".  Conversely, you may face self-doubt when you are doing what you've always done, and people around you are changing and doing things differently.  I see this a ton in the blogging world (because it's so old you know). ;-)

You will likely face self-doubt at different points because there is a bit of "newness" involved, on your part or others.  Keep pushing forward, and the less "new" it gets, likely the less self-doubt you will feel.  It's why it's a beautiful thing to see an accomplished musician play, or a seasoned teacher teach.  They have invested the time and gained self-confidence over the months and years.

 

2. Get Sound Advice.

Surround yourself with like-minded people who love you, support you, and whom you have given permission to help you evaluate the circumstance.  We all need a handful of family and/or friends that we trust to be honest with our ideas and goals.  I would not be where I am today without the encouragement of these people over the years, and yes, they told me when I had bad ideas or that I might want to consider an alternative "plan of action".

We are better when we reach out to others for advice and encouragement, without feeling afraid of their ideas to help us.

 

3. See Your Comparisons As Learning Opportunities.

Usually when we begin to compare ourselves to others, it's because we see what they've done and feel like it's sooooooo much better than what we created.  And to be honest, sometimes it honestly is.  Ouch.

That doesn't mean that we need to adjust our course of action, shift our priorities "to one up them", or quit all together.  It gives us an opportunity to be "appropriately inspired".  It gives us an opportunity to "level up".  If you feel overwhelmed, go back to your priorities.  

I'll give you a personal example.  I found some other blogging ebooks (there are really so many!) and painting classes that made me feel just a "bit small".   I wanted to go into full blown "make it a million times better" mode - BUT, I reminded myself that my faith and family come first, and I did the best with the limited time I had.

I actually DO feel confident that what I created is a fantastic resource for learning how to start a blog. And it lines up with my goals at this time, which is to cut the fluff and help people get started on the right track.  If you'd like to check it out, you can go here >>>>> www.CreativeBloggingResourceGuide.com/sale OR get my FREE blogging tips HERE.

 

 

 

4. Step Away From The Situation.

There's this crazy balance when we have goals between pushing forward, pushing through, tackling things head on, and then taking some time to walk away.  I think it does something wonderful for our brains and bodies when we change things up a bit!

Go for a walk, go out with friends, spend time with your kids, watch a movie.  If you're working on physically high intensity goals, do a low intensity activity.  Likewise, if you are doing tasks related to your goal that are a low-intensity, take some time to do a high-intensity activity.

Change the scenery. Take a deep breath.  It will be okay.

 

Have you struggled with self doubt recently or frequently?  What steps have you taken to move past those moments?

***See the entire series HERE.

 

xo,

Anneke

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One Room Challenge Fall 2015: Week 1 Kitchen

Kitchen, Interiors, Home Blog PostsAnneke McConnell

There's nothing I love more than a good challenge, especially when it is challenging me to finish something I started this summer - our kitchen.  The One Room Challenge is a 6-week challenge, hosted by Linda of Calling It Home, to transform, finish, or fluff a room sharing weekly updates of their blog.  I've watched and admired the transformations in the past, but was not in a position to participate at that time.

 

If you're new to Coastal Collective Co., welcome!  This is a newer blog I launched in full force this Fall after taking a year off of blogging at my previous blog This, That and Life.  It's been a crazy and exciting transition from being full-time stay-at-home mama for the past 10 years (and part-time blogging the past few years), to full-time blogging now that all of our kiddos are in school during the day.

 

New beginnings can be scary, especially not transferring any previous content I had built up, but I'm having a blast being back to blogging and sharing with you all - my personal spin on everything from interior design, furniture makeovers, fashion, and what I've learned about blogging over the years and balancing it all!

 

Ok, so what about the challenge?!  Our little beach house kitchen is about to get DONE!  Finished! When my husband and I decided to move into our little beach house, he promised I could paint the cabinets white - my dream!! Two years later and this summer I impulsively cracked open my paint can and just started.  FYI....I don't recommend that, even after all that scheming in my head for months.  I had quite the good and back experience through it all, sharing the occasional post on Instagram, ultimately abandoning the full makeover in its entirety once the cabinets were painted and reinstalled.

I was burnt out. Done. No more.

I was also wanting to enjoy the view, enjoy my kid's summer break, and enjoy a functioning kitchen again.  Honestly, I vowed to never do a major project like that during the kid's summer break again. Yikes - but I will share what I learned with YOU, so you don't make the same mistakes I did. PLUS, I'm going to finish, because we still have a list of things to accomplish with the space. You are officially my accountability partner, ok?

Want to see the BEFORE photos already?  Here are photos of our kitchen when we had it listed as a vacation rental.  Yes...most of the time is spent looking out. We are extremely thankful and our move to this home has been a blessing!

 

So the kitchen, although very "orange-toned", was well taken care of when we bought it and it has great lines to work with.  We have much bigger plans in mind [renovation scale] to move the stove, flatten the island to countertop height, and upgrade appliances and flooring, but this plan is our mid-way "make it better on a budget with little mess" plan.

 

Here's the vision and plan:

  1. Make it affordable and manageable with the family schedule - so no new countertops, appliances, flooring, etc. at this time.
  2. Paint the cabinets white.
  3. Paint the walls - which color though, still not sure.
  4. Source, buy, and install knobs and pulls for the cabinets.
  5. Source, buy and install a new kitchen faucet. The current sink will stay.
  6. Choose finishing items: window treatments, kitchen rug, kitchen towels, wall decor.
  7. Tackle the backsplash.
  8. Address better storage solutions and organization of items in the cabinets and drawers.
  9. Address the little nook space next to the cabinets.
  10. Address the dining nook by the window.

 

I'd say that's a pretty good list to tackle over the next 6 weeks!  Check back every Thursday for updates and the final reveal with be November 12th - just before my birthday! Woohoo!  Here is the vision and a few inspirational photos to give you a better idea of my style and the looks I am drawn to.

 


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Cheers to the next 6 weeks of progress updates and following along with the 20 selected designers and linking participants. Wish me luck!


****Update: here is the entire series

Week 1: The Vision and Before Photos

Week 2: Painting the Cabinets

Week 3: Purging, Storage and Organization Solutions in the Kitchen

Week 4: Herringbone Tile

Week 5: Evaluating Progress

Week 6: Kitchen Reveal

 

xo,

Anneke

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Splurge vs. Save: All Things Leopard Print

Fashion Blog PostsAnneke McConnell

Hello friends! Be sure to follow along on Instagram and Pinterest for all the behind the scenes, not to mention my new FAVE app Periscope!!

 

When it comes to fall patterns and textures, the leopard print is one of my top five favorites, along with faux fur, velvet, cable knit, and plaid which I've already highlighted here for the season.

 

I love putting this weekly series together because even this girl who loves higher end, high quality  items also wants to know how to get the look for less at times!  So whether you have been looking for a super cute leopard clutch, coat, or high heels - here's my faves for Splurge vs. Save.   Take note, not all leopard on all things is good....keep it classy ladies. ;-)

 

Here are other leopard finds that I think look stylish.  It's kind of amazing just how much pops up on search engines for leopard, so I hope this helps narrow things down for you. ;-)

Sometimes I feel like I live in two worlds of all things girly and dressy and heels and hair and the other side that that's messy painting furniture and working on decorating projects for the house.  I wouldn't have it any other way!  Today is a painting project day and I can't wait to dive into sharing about our KITCHEN MAKEOVER!!  Time to hammer it out and share all the good and the bad (yup - there was some of that)!

Thank you for visiting and enjoy your day!

xo,

Anneke

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Coastal Interiors: Entryway Design and Decor Picks Under $100

Entryway, Home Blog PostsAnneke McConnell

Hello friends! Be sure to follow along on Instagram and Pinterest for all the behind the scenes, not to mention my new FAVE app Periscope!!

 

When it comes to design, I gravitate toward clean and simple, yet with an element of coziness and blended textures.  In today's entryway design (first shared on Instagram at @CoastalInteriors using LikeToKnow.It's services - sign up to easily shop my designs before they hit the blog).

Like I said above, I love clean lines and uncluttered design.  I do think that special items styled well make a beautiful difference and add character to your home.  I often love searching local antique shops on the surrounding PNW islands for a beautiful piece of coral.  It is one of the few things I collect and treasure, because each piece is unique and they look beautiful displayed throughout our home.  Below are some of my recent finds of mostly under $100 items I find either beautiful, functional, adding to a positive family life, or a great sale this week!  I'm honored to possibly be a part of helping you find a special new treasure or decor item to add to your home this season. These are anything from home decor items, lighting, and kitchen items for the upcoming Thanksgiving and Christmas season.  I love them all!

 

 

Below are a few items that caught my eye as I was searching for design ideas.  That blue velvet settee is gorgeous, isn't it?!

On a personal project note, I am continuing to work on our open kitchen, dining, and living room space at our beach house [series on previous blog] as well as a mini makeover on our kid's shared bedroom. These things never seem to happen as quickly as I'd like, but I'd rather take it in stride than rush it!

 

***Congratulations to Shirley Higgins who won the Instagram Giveaway. Please email me at coastalcollectiveco@gmail.com by October 26th, 2015 with subject line GIVEAWAY to claim your prize! Thank you to everyone who entered. We will have more of these giveaways in the coming weeks!

 

Thank you for visiting and enjoy your day!

xo,

Anneke

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